What is it that has your belly in a knot?

Welcome Melissa, glad you could join me . . .:)

What is it that has your belly in a knot? That is the crux of the matter, isn't it? Most of us know but wouldn't dare approach a subject with lovers, friends, or family. So lay it out there.

I use to think that if I watched enough soap opera's, read books, and maybe even tuned into erotic videos, I'd have it figured out, problem solved. WRONG.
The only way to experience new things, get over sexy ideas that you wouldn't act out (left for the more risque), is to talk about them with someone that knows how you feel or has experienced the same issues.

One idea, one fantasy, one issue . . . that's all it takes. Face your fears and work on your new adventure. What really makes you shiver?

Teaching yourself to be more open

That's a rough spot to be in. We all grow up with different characters or personalities that influence who we are, and how we interact with people. If you look at your parents, siblings, relatives, you will no doubt pick out one person that you are most like.

The only way to change how you interact with people, would be to take a chance, move yourself beyond your comfort zone. Have you ever watched a person walk into a room, comfortably talk to someone in the crowd and wished you could be like them? Some people are inherently talented in connecting with people.

In relationships, it works the same way . . . how many times have you moved from casual dating, communication, something deeper, and then back to talking about the weather? Unfortunately, it happens with a lot of relationships. I like to think of one question I would never ask a person, too personal, too nosy, and pick a person . . throw it out there (out of my comfort zone) and wait on a response...Amazing how freeing it can be, as well as teaching yourself to step out, be comfortable in yourself and who you are, and draws people to you. Try it.

Tell me what you do to pull someone closer, improve a relationship, take it deeper.

Let's just start by saying that today you visited a site that will help you change what is and make it into something that fits you, works for you.

I am no expert, but I know this, nothing happens in a relationship unless you make the effort to make it happen. Are you able to say what you want to a friend? Are you able to confide in anyone about what makes you happy? If you are into someone and it seems almost impossible to gain more from that person then you have to take the first steps in making it move forward. You have to treat the person as you would anyone that you are comfortable with.

If you are together, the sex is so so, the communication is so so, what do you have to lose by being open . . . get what you want or let it go. Make sure in doing this, you are willing to give more in return

We are going to see where this blog takes us. A challenge . . . most people tend to slide into comfortable . . . rather than be who you were yesterday, set your alarm for 2 a.m., or whatever time suits you...make an ordinary night into a start of a fantasy . . . if only for your lover..reignite what you started with or start something different...see where it takes you.